The universe sends you exactly what you need, when you need it!
I’ve had a really tough week, mainly because my gentle parenting method of S was compromised and I felt pushed into a situation that goes against how I’d like to parent him. And then this post by Sarah popped into my inbox yesterday. And quite honestly, I couldn’t have said it better myself!
Many people are of the belief that 2 year olds don’t know what they want, that children need to be forced into things because “they don’t know better” and often we find ourselves at the receiving end of unsolicited advice.
For me, this post sums up how I parent my child. The importance of listening to what he wants, responding to his needs and keeping him happy as much as I can. Because what’s more important than a happy child?
Sure, he’s 2 and he’ll tantrum and he’ll go through various emotions and often get upset at not being able to express himself. But he knows his mama is always there. As Sarah so eloquently puts it, “Gentle parenting is not permissive parenting” (and I’ve said the same thing before). It’s not always about giving into your child or letting them call the shots but taking the time to listen to what they need.
Sarah’s post was just the “gentle” reminder I needed this weekend :)
Originally posted on Sarah Ockwell-Smith:
In my opinion it can be summed up with just four words:
Parenting with your child’s feelings in mind as much as possible. Using empathy (or what some psychologists call ‘mind-mindedness’) to gain insight into your child’s behaviour and using empathy to decide what action you should take in response. The key here really is thinking “would I like it if somebody did this to me?” if the answer is “no”, then why would you do it to your child?
Respecting your child as much as you would respect an adult. For some reason in our society we afford children little respect. We constantly tell them what to do, what they like and dislike and perhaps worst of all the constant “be quiet” commands. We don’t really ‘hear’ them enough. Why did he hit…
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