I’ve often heard the phrase “People come into our lives for a reason, season or a life time” and I’ve recently found out how true that is. I’ve also realised that a lot of the time, those people come into our lives because that’s what we choose to attract at that time. And in most circumstances, even painful ones, those people are there to teach us something.
When relationships end or go sour, it’s very easy to play the victim card and to focus on everything the other person has done wrong. But what actually helps is to focus on what that person taught you and why they entered your life when they did. I’ve been doing that a lot in the last few months and I’ve actually found it’s given me much peace and happiness. It’s allowed to me forgive and let go.
As I evolved from this place of peace and happiness, I started to see things change. There was a very obvious shift in my life. Away from negativity and idleness, towards contentment. Things that bothered me mere months ago, now washed over me, without affecting me. I almost feel like I have a bubble of positive energy surrounding me. And other people are starting to notice it too.
One of the great outcomes of this shift has been the amazing people I have met since. Some of these people have always been around, I just wasn’t ready to meet them. But now I have! In the last couple of months, I’ve had some inspiring conversations. I’ve felt moved and determined by these women that I have met. I’ve heard stories that give me hope and those that teach me what I need to learn.
I’m lucky & blessed to have some amazing friends in my life who I know will last a life time. Going through tough times show you who your friends are and in the last couple of years I’ve also put to rest many of those friendships that were only meant to last a season. As the autumn leaves fall off, I’m reminded of how important it is for all of us to shed the old and let go so that when the spring arrives, we can welcome new energy into our lives.
In order for all these changes to come about, I had to change. I had to change my perspective and my thinking.
I took a stand, I followed my heart and I couldn’t be happier.
I have to be honest, I didn’t complete the 21 days. Life has a way of getting busy (lame excuse I know!!). This summer they are hosting another 21 day meditation on happiness and I am determined to put aside the time each day to complete it.
Essentially we are all happy beings and happiness is our true nature but when our ego, desires and other outwardly things take over, we often find we base our happiness on what we have rather than what we are.
So if you’re interested, give it a go…it’s 20 minutes each day and it started on the 11th of August (but you have up to 5 days to catch up).
On the first day Deepak Chopra explains how we all sacrifice our happiness in the name of selflessness but in fact by choosing happiness for ourselves and not feeling guilty or selfish about it, our happiness expands to all those around us. I’ve seen this time and time again. People feeling like they are martyrs because they sacrifice their happiness for others. I’ve done it myself…but I do find when I realise and remind myself that happiness is within me and actually consciously chosen by me, life gets a whole lot better! 🙂
A couple of weeks ago, my cousin Renu (who blogs at Blue Brown Soul) told me about a 21 day meditation hosted by Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra. They’ve been holding regular 3 week meditation sessions routinely and I’d started one last year but never finished it. So I thought this was my opportunity to try again. The topic was Desire & Destiny. But…I forgot about it on the 11th. Good thing my dad reminded me yesterday and I started it…albeit a few days late.
It’s only 20 minutes long, of which the first 7/8 minutes is Oprah & Deepak’s soothing voices, guiding you towards the meditation and then the actual meditation. I sat in my living room on the 7th floor, the balcony door was open and there was a cool breeze running over me as I allowed their voices and the music to carry me up into the clouds.
The first day they asked us to ask ourselves “Who am I?” This is a question everyone should ask themselves, it leads to deep inner reflection. I am not just Natasha, daughter, sister, mother. I am so much more than that. During the meditation we focused on the mantra “So Hum”.
The second day we focused on choices. And how our choices affect our karma. If we want to alter our karmic path, we need to change our choices. The Sanskrit mantra we meditated on was “Om Kriyam Namah”.
It’s only 20 minutes of your day but will give you a lot more than that in peace. I’m challenging myself to get through the 21 days, I’ll let you know how I go!