AMTOGG – Genevieve Simperingham

Today’s mom on A Mother’s Time Out Global Gathering by Micheline Green was Genevieve Simperingham.

Genevieve was born and raised in Ireland. She was 1 of 9 children born into a life of struggle and tough times. Her father was very volatile and violent and she grew up very fearful. Her experiences during her childhood led her to become a very cynical, hurt, lost and troubled teen who got into the wrong company and wrong habits. It was only when she met a couple who were running a course for people like her that she had her Aha moment.

She got into meditation which really helped her focus and eventually started running parenting courses (even before she became a parent herself).

In her opinion, a big part of peaceful parenting is having good listening skills. And that’s not just pretending to listen and be interested but to actually “listen” to our children. It seems like a very basic and simple skill but it’s affects are profound. There are endless ways that we can shut our children down but there are also many creative ways we can open our heart and actually listen to our children, creating a safe space for communication.

The biggest misconception that moms have now adays is that everyone else is doing a better job than them. You see kids being dropped off at school and happily going in and think Gee, I wish my kid was like that. But perhaps you haven’t seen the struggle the mom went through earlier that morning just to get her kids clothes on or get him/her to eat breakfast or even get into the car.

Parenting is a really tough 24/7 job of juggling needs. It’s about equiping people with support and offering them safety. *Parents, specifically moms, need a space to offload their struggles without feeling guilty.* They need someone to normalise their struggles and the everyday stress that they feel.

Genevieve ended by sharing some relaxation techniques. One was music – choose a track that relaxes you and listen to it when to calm yourself when all around you is manic. When your child is throwing a tantrum or testing your patience. The second was to use visualisation techniques. At the end of the day, when all is quiet, imagine a moment earlier in the day where you’ve been really stressed. Visualise the moment and remember your hands, jaw, heart rate, how you felt. Then acknowledge it! Say out loud…”I’m really stressed and this is really tough”. Then out your hand on your heart and say “My needs are important as well, my feelings are important as well. Somehow I need to slow down and take the pressure off. I’m choosing to slow down. I’m choosing to take the pressure off”.

By centering yourself and accepting your feelings, you release that pressure valve. You have to name and validate your feelings before you can move on. And this is a technique we can teach to our children as well. Providing them with a healthy outlet will lead to far fewer chances of them lashing out, hitting someone else or taking it out on their siblings/friends/you.

Give it a go…because what’s more important than being happy?

Last year I wrote about Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra’s 21 day meditation on Desire and Destiny.

I have to be honest, I didn’t complete the 21 days. Life has a way of getting busy (lame excuse I know!!). This summer they are hosting another 21 day meditation on happiness and I am determined to put aside the time each day to complete it.

Essentially we are all happy beings and happiness is our true nature but when our ego, desires and other outwardly things take over, we often find we base our happiness on what we have rather than what we are.

So if you’re interested, give it a go…it’s 20 minutes each day and it started on the 11th of August (but you have up to 5 days to catch up).

On the first day Deepak Chopra explains how we all sacrifice our happiness in the name of selflessness but in fact by choosing happiness for ourselves and not feeling guilty or selfish about it, our happiness expands to all those around us. I’ve seen this time and time again. People feeling like they are martyrs because they sacrifice their happiness for others. I’ve done it myself…but I do find when I realise and remind myself that happiness is within me and actually consciously chosen by me, life gets a whole lot better! ­čÖé

You can sign up here.


Do you have twenty minutes to spare?

A┬ácouple of weeks ago, my cousin Renu (who blogs at Blue Brown Soul) told me about a 21 day meditation hosted by Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra. They’ve been holding regular 3 week meditation sessions routinely and I’d started one last year but never finished it. So I thought this was my opportunity to try again. The topic was Desire & Destiny. But…I forgot about it on the 11th. Good thing my dad reminded me yesterday and I started it…albeit a few days late.

You can check it out and register here.

It’s only 20 minutes long, of which the first 7/8 minutes is Oprah & Deepak’s soothing voices, guiding you towards the meditation and then the actual meditation. I sat in my living room on the 7th floor, the balcony door was open and there was a cool breeze running over me as I allowed their voices and the music to carry me up into the clouds.

The first day they asked us to ask ourselves “Who am I?” This is a question everyone should ask themselves, it leads to deep inner reflection. I am not just Natasha, daughter, sister, mother. I am so much more than that. During the meditation we focused on the┬ámantra “So Hum”.

The second day we focused on choices. And how our choices affect our karma. If we want to alter our karmic path, we need to change our choices. The Sanskrit mantra we meditated on was “Om Kriyam Namah”.

It’s only 20 minutes of your day but will give you a lot more than that in peace. I’m challenging myself to get through the 21 days, I’ll let you know how I go!

Have a happy weekend!