Switched at Birth

I came across an article online earlier today: Women switched at birth were awarded £300,000 each. Their parents were awarded £230,000 each and their siblings £45,000.

I was really surprised by this article. My first thoughts were about what being a parent actually means. Our parents are the people who watch our first steps, wipe our brows when we have a fever, kiss our boo-boo’s better, put us through school and give us a (hopefully) good life. Parenting is not constituted by merely DNA but through involvement, love and life. So if this is the case then each of these girls had parents who raised them and loved them very much.

I mean it would leave you feeling out of sorts if you were to find out at 20 that your mom wasn’t your biological mom (although I think they realised earlier) and that you were switched at birth (a crazy mistake to be made). But I just feel by taking the money, it’s not going to rectify the mistake, it’s not going to make you switch parents back, it’s not going to change your past and the way you were raised and it certainly shouldn’t change the feelings you have towards the actual parents who raised you. It will most certainly make life more comfortable and I suppose on that account, they have every right to the money.

I started to think about what I’d do if I found myself in that situation. I’m sure I’d suddenly have lots of questions and in many ways lots of answers but personally I wouldn’t feel like I missed out on anything. If they’d been switched and one of the children had been seriously ill or abused then I’d understand the need for a compensation. Otherwise, I’m not quite sure…I think it’s one of those things where you really don’t know how you’d react unless you were actually in that situation.

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5 thoughts on “Switched at Birth

  1. Hmmm yes this is tricky. This is kind of like what it feels like finding out that you’re adopted I imagine, the rug being swept out from under you and making your whole life feel like a sham. It must be awful and I feel desperately sorry for all of those involved. Perhaps the litigation wasn’t so much about the money, as about raising awareness and wanting someone to be held accountable for such a horrific mistake… Poor people x

  2. It’s a hard one but I understand the need for compensation, to apologise to all involved that they were denied without knowledge or consent as with adoption, the chance to raise their own biological child. I do agree that it shouldn’t and wouldn’t have mattered when no one knew but the fact remains that they all know now and must feel lost and bewildered and frustrated by what happened. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

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