As a mother I never stop thinking about all the things I want to say to you. All the things I want to tell you, share with you, teach you. Things I never want you to forget.
So here is my list of 20 of the things I want you to know:
1. Don’t lie about the important things. A first lie is always followed by a second, then a third, often a fourth until you can’t keep up. And each lie takes away alittle chunk of the real you.
2. Spend time every year (once a month, once a week, whatever you can) with those less fortunate than you. It will fill your heart with gratitude and compassion.
3. Be kind. Help that old lady crossing the street or that lady trying to carry her pram up those stairs. They may not always say thank you but your good will always find a way of coming back to you.
4. Dream big and live passionately. Don’t back down from something you have your heart set on, even if your dad and I don’t agree with it. If its what you truly want, we’ll want it for you as well.
5. Find a job that makes you happy. Spending 8-9 hours of your day doing something you love will make you a much happier person to be around.
6. Leave your comfort zone from time to time. It might look scary out there but its worth it. If you get a chance to travel the globe, take it! You’ll learn alot more from people and experiences in different places than from the same people in the same place.
7. Read and never give up on learning because there is so much out there. Books have a way of transporting you to magical places and builds an imagination no one can take away from you.
8. Play, Draw, Paint, Create – Creating art should be a constant in your life. It encourages individuality and self expression.
9. Use your words and not your hands to say what you need to say. But along with that, be mindful of what you say because words spoken can never be taken back and have a way of leaving an imprint on someone way after they’ve been spoken.
10. Explore the outdoors, its way more fun than playing on an ipad or watching tv indoors. Build a sandcastle, roll down a hill, go camping, kick a ball, hop, skip, run, jump! Those memories will last you alot longer.
11. See the value in differences – black, white, short, tall, fair, geeky, jock like, popular, punk, etc – they’re all beings and power lies in friendships.
12. It’s okay to cry. It doesn’t make you any less of a man. Everyone needs a good cry sometimes, its a natural reaction of our emotions. Men cry, women cry, children cry, we all cry.
13. Always be proud of who YOU are. If someone doesn’t like it, that is their problem and not yours. As long as you stay true to who you are, you’ll always be content.
14. Before you leave us and go off to college, you must know how to do a few things – your own laundry, making your own bed, grocery shopping, vacuum cleaning and cooking a decent meal (not just a frozen one). Your future wife will thank me for this.
15. Love your mother earth and treat her with respect. Being green isn’t just another trend, its a way of life so reduce, reuse and recycle. Its only going to benefit you and your future family in the long run.
16. Have the courage to lead and not just to follow. No one left footprints on the road frequently travelled. Pave your own way, fulfill your own dreams.
17. Wherever you are in life, you can come home, I’ll always be there (with a cup of tea!).
18. Be spiritual. I will never force my views on you but I want you to find your place in the universe and be comfortable with it. Know what you stand for because if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for everything and we all need something to hold onto sometimes.
19. Exercise – make it a part of your daily routine. Our health is our greatest asset and a positive approach to health encompasses our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being. A healthy lifestyle from your youth will lay a strong foundation for continued wellness into your adult life.
20. Last but not least, I will constantly kiss you and tell you how much I love you! Even when you’re 16, even infront of your friends. Get used to it!